Are you tired of not having want you want in your career, relationship, health and in life? Do you just miss out on finding love, getting that promotion, pay rise, desired weight, taking that next step in life, etc? Here are the secrets to getting what you really want.
You Already Know What You Want
When I ask people what they want, I often hear them say “I don’t know what I want”. Yet, you already know what you want. You already have all the answers that you seek, inside of you right now. You just need to become aware of them. When clients address the past emotions, fears, self doubts and limiting beliefs which block those answers, they become aware of exactly what they want. A clarity emerges from within them because all they need is some guidance to discover the answers that already lie within – the answers that are right for them.
Give Yourself Permission to Have It
Perhaps you are aware of exactly what you want, yet you are doing nothing about it. Maybe you want to change careers or start a business or get into a new relationship or reach a health goal? Yet, these remain unfulfilled dreams, waiting to be turned into a reality.
Anytime you make excuses for not taking action towards your dreams, you are excusing yourself from having what you want. These excuses can take the form of limiting beliefs and self doubts. For example, do you believe that you are worthy, deserving and good enough to have what you really want? If so, then you just need to give yourself permission to have what you want and start taking action towards it. If not, you will need to address those beliefs so that they stop limiting you from having what you really want.
Stop Sitting on the Fence
Decide what you want and follow through on it. Stop hedging your bets either way just in case. For example, I want to start my own business yet like the security of income from my career, or I want to be in a relationship, yet like the freedom of being single. That lack of commitment to what you really want will give mixed signals to people around you, and will lead to inconsistency in your action and follow through. Once you make a commitment to yourself and what you really want, you will start to attract the people and resources to assist you with having what you really want.
Go for the best and forget the rest
Avoid settling for second best. Know what you really want and then avoid compromising yourself. For example, if you want a new job that satisfies all of your eight needs, avoid settling for a job that only meets two of your needs, and telling yourself or thinking that it is better than nothing or at least it is a job. Never settle for less than what you really want as any time you do, you send a very disempowering message to your unconscious mind that you do not deserve to have what you really want.
Once you have the clarity about what you really want, you give yourself permission to have it and you fully commit to having it, then you need to follow through with action. Because action breeds success, every step you take towards what you really want will empower you to turn your dreams into a reality!
Dr. Vesna Grubacevic is an author (of the Amazon best-selling book, Stop Sabotaging Your Confidence), speaker, media commentator, and the founder and Performance Transformation Expert® with multi award-winning company, Qt. She holds a PhD, a BEc and is passionate about helping professionals and individuals to improve their confidence, emotional and mental wellbeing and success. For more free resources please visit www.qttransformation.com
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